Staying Attached Fathers and Children in Troubled Times

This book is about the changing social contexts for fathering in the United Kingdom since the end of the Second World War and the social moves from patriarchal fatherhood to the multiple ways of doing "dad." The book questions why fathers have been marginalized by therapists working with children and families. It proposes that theories of psychotherapy, including attachment theory, have failed to sufficiently take fathers' love for their children and the reality of changing social fatherhoods into account, consequently affecting related practice. Different contemporary family structures and multiple variations of relationship between fathers and children are considered in this book.Many fathers, brought up within earlier patriarchal frameworks for viewing fatherhood are still trying to exercise these structures within the contexts of rapid change in expectations of men as fathers. They may find themselves in troubled and oppositional relations with partners and often children. Examples are given for thinking about fathers in different relationship transitions, including "non-live-in" fatherhoods, re-entering children's lives after long absences, fathering following acrimonious divorce, and a range of social fatherhoods. Depression and mental illness are addressed. Work developed with fathers to keep them connected to their children, both in and out of the family court, is described and explored.